Valentine’s Day is a great time to tell people you love them. You can exchange gifts, notes, and other trinkets of appreciation. For couples, it is also a great time to take a moment to remember how much you enjoy being with each other.
For couples that have been together a long time, keeping things sexy can be challenging. You get into a routine that tends to take over. There is little spontaneity or the time and energy to be spontaneous. That doesn’t mean your relationship is dying. It means you need to take a minute to show each other some appreciation. Here are three ways to spice up your Valentine’s Day.
Buy some spicy lingerie
You might be thinking it is a waste of money to buy lingerie. You might be thinking you’ve seen each other naked so many times and there’s really no point. You may also be thinking he won’t care that much. However, doing something out of the ordinary like buying a spicy piece of lingerie will get your partner’s attention. It will remind him that you are a sexy woman, and you know it. It’ll remind him that you like getting spicy and having him show you he wants you.
Buy yourself some toys, props, or costumes
If you think your partner will be excited to see you in lingerie, imagine how he’ll react to come home from work and see you “dusting” the bedroom in a sexy maid outfit or waiting with handcuffs to punish him for being late? You can go to The Store online to buy useful items that double as props. Not only will you save yourself from any embarrassment you may feel walking into a brick-and-mortar sex toy shop, but you can actually make use of the amazing items you buy. Think about any fantasies talked about or sexy movies you two have watched that he found particularly appealing. Even if what you buy wasn’t part of his fantasies before, they’ll become part of it when he sees what you have planned.
Have an affair with your partner
Send a cryptic message telling your partner to meet you at a local bar. Be waiting there in a sexy dress and introduce yourself when he approaches you. You can even use a fake name to make it fun. Flirt, be sexy, let him buy you a drink. Then get up to leave slipping a hotel key in his pocket. Give him a look that makes him crazy and have him follow you to the room. There is a level of excitement that goes with affairs that you can replicate within the intimacy of a relationship.
Bonus Idea: Take some sexy photos together
Everyone has their insecurities. You may feel a bit out-of-shape the older you get and the more kids you have. However, you have to remember that confidence is one of the sexiest traits for both men and women. Putting yourself out there and flaunting what you have regardless of what you think you look like is amazingly sexy, and your partner will notice. Decorate your bed with candles, roses, silk sheets, and some feather boas; put on the sexiest lingerie you have, and ask your partner to take some photos of you for a personal collection. Taking sexy photos not only takes a great deal of confidence but also a great deal of intimacy between you and your partner.
Too often, couples fall into the idea that they’ve been together too long to still make things different or exciting in the bedroom. When you’ve been together for a long time, making things sexy is even easier than when your relationship is new because it is no longer expected. You can really wow your partner with a simple suggestion.