Relationships fail all the time and the reasons are endless, from lack of communication to the overuse of smartphones. If you find your relationship is in trouble, there are some things you can do to turn things around.
Or, at the very least, improve the current standings of your relationship for the better. You might be wondering how to build a strong relationship.
We’re here to give you some tips that will help you improve your relationship and begin seeing eye-to-eye with your partner again.
1. Learn to Communicate
One of the most common reasons relationships fail is due to a breakdown in communication between partners. Not understanding how to communicate with each other can lead to one partner feeling unheard and a host of arguments.
In Evergreen Relationship Therapy your therapist will help you learn effective ways of communicating with each other and you can then take these techniques and begin using them outside of therapy.
You’ll find that while communication doesn’t resolve every problem you have in your relationship, it does make it easier to work together to find solutions to these problems.
2. Actively Listen
People can tell when you’ve checked out of a conversation. Eventually, instead of trying to speak to you, they will simply decide not to say anything at all.
When your partner is talking to you don’t interrupt them or begin planning what your response will be. Instead, give them your undivided attention and do your best to digest what they’re saying.
Sometimes we get so busy doing other things that we miss the message our partners are trying to convey to us.
3. Don’t Play the Blame Game
Whenever conflict arises in a relationship the easiest thing to do is play the blame game. Instead of pointing fingers and using words like ‘you’ or ‘your’ use words like ‘I’ and ‘me’.
This ensures that you’re focusing on the part you’ve played in each situation and changing the things that you can change. Always pointing fault at your partner doesn’t negate the idea that you need to take responsibility for your actions as well.
4. Put Them First
In the hustle and bustle of life, our partners get pushed to the waste side. This can make them feel as if they aren’t a priority, which might not be your intention at all.
Find time in your schedules to set aside for each other and spend time reconnecting. This could mean having a standing date night each week or putting your phones away when you get home and having a conversation with each other.
Whatever you choose to do, make time to reconnect with one another.
How to Build a Strong Relationship?
How to build a strong relationship is a question many of us search for the answers to. You can find time to seek couples therapy and remember it’s best to focus on the things you can do rather than playing the blame game.
We understand you’re trying to disconnect and focus on your partner more, but before you go check out some of our posts. Who knows, it could be the topic of your next conversation.