When it comes to relationships with Christian women and men, it’s important to know first off what you’re getting into, as well as what to say and what not to say. This is especially true when it comes to starting from scratch on a dating website. While there are some liberal Christians out there who you can normally be a little more open and blunt with, most commonly you want to watch your tone as many Christians on dating sites are still rather conservative. In this guide, we’ll tell you few guidelines to follow when it comes to developing Christian relationships from dating websites like Match.com, eHarmony.com, EliteSingles.com, ChristianMingle or even a dating site for Republicans.
Lesson Number One: Taking it Slow
The best relationships are developed from friendships, and most importantly ones that take time to grow. Therefore, don’t expect to rush right into a relationship. While you may get lucky, sure, you may find that “love at true sight” factor on the site, but many times this isn’t really true love.
You want to develop a trusting relationship and friendship with those you’re talking to. And if you’re looking for a “quick fix” for loneliness, then you may be barking up the wrong tree as well. Try just being somewhat casual at first so you can’t get disappointed by someone else wanting a more casual relationship, as compared to someone looking for their soulmate. Take your time and see where the future leads you.
Lesson Number Two: Vulgar Language
While some curse words can often be forgiven, even by Christians (believe me, there are plenty of them out there who swear too), you need to watch your tone, your attitude, and if you have a potty mouth, might want to keep it out of conversation as much as possible. Give fair warning and use manners as much as possible when talking to each other until a more established relationship is developed. This will keep both of you from getting offended by each other’s language.
Be a Lady or Gentleman
Using proper “netiquette”, a term commonly phrased and placed with online etiquette is very important. It goes far beyond language. More importantly, it helps you to watch what you say, design your profile so you don’t look too desperate (no matter how desperate for love you may be), and don’t be too vague. Honesty is one of the most important factors in any case, as it helps you develop trust, which is essential in any relationship. Also, try to be a little conservative and not gullible either. Many people online aren’t the same type of people they are offline. Beware of scammers and people just trying to lure people in, as it does happen from time to time. This doesn’t mean treat them bad, but when you see warning signs that cause distrust, you may want to slow it down more.
Starting a relationship online can be just as daunting as starting a real relationship. The only true difference between an online relationship and a real one is that the communication takes place a lot sooner, and many times grows from there (like an extra step to break the ice in a relationship). If you take your time, you should be fine though.
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