First things first, congratulations! If you’ve got that shiny, new diamond ring on your finger, or you just gave one to the love of your life, you’ve just gotten engaged, and are about to embark on a whole new era of your life! Engagement season is one of the best and most exciting times of your life, and we’re here to help make sure you plan your wedding without breaking a sweat. We know that once you start planning your wedding and the excitement of being engaged starts to die down (not entirely of course) you’ll start to realize how much actually goes into planning a wedding, and that it can be quite a stressful endeavor. Because we’ve seen thousands of couples go through this pre-wedding stress, we’ve whittled down our list to our top 4 tips that all newly-engaged couples need to hear before you even start planning the wedding. So before you jump into choose your weeding photographers, floral arrangements, wedding cakes, and more, take the time to read this simple list, and we promise you’ll save you and your future spouse a great amount of time and stress.
Discuss the Most Important Priorities First
Just as with anything in life, it’s important to figure out what your priorities are first. When planning a wedding, you will find that there are a number of small details that go into the execution of the actual event. You should first figure out what you and your fiancé consider the most important parts of the wedding, and how you want the wedding to be overall. Some of the most important parts of the wedding you must discuss are the budget, the size of the guest lists, and the location. These are the topics you must discuss before you even begin wedding planning. These three essential aspects of the wedding will affect the whole wedding planning process.
Stick to Your Budget
We know you want everything and the best for your wedding – which can make it really hard to say know when it comes time to do so. That’s why you should discuss the most important things first, as previously mentioned, and the budget is one of the biggest things to discuss (if not the biggest). If you can’t afford everything you want for your wedding, you simply can’t afford it, and no amount of begging and crying will change that. Discuss with your fiancé the maximum amount of money you two are willing to spend on the wedding. You might find that you both are on the same page with how much you want to spend. On the other hand, you two may be on polar opposite ends about budget expectations, which is why it’s important to discuss the budget early on.
Once you’ve settled on a budget, you will want to list out the expected wedding expenses you will incur. Based on your priorities, you will allocate a larger budget to the items on your list that are more important and give a smaller budget to the less important items. You may feel that it’s okay to spend less money on your wedding cake but aren’t willing to budge on how much you want to spend on your wedding dress. Do research on wedding vendors that match your priorities, so you know how much those will costs. If you are really into photography, or if matters to you how well the photos will turn out, you should look into hiring wedding photographers that are high-quality with a lot of experience. Because you know a photographer is more important to you can set aside a larger portion of your budget towards this expense.
Listen to Your Own Opinion – Not Everyone Else’s
Everyone is going to have an opinion. Trust us. Because a wedding ushers you into the next part of your life, everyone who is close to you will want to have some kind of say in your wedding plans to make sure that it’s planned right. But right is a very subjective term. A wedding is meant to celebrate the love between you and your fiancé. Which means the wedding is for you, and no one else. This doesn’t mean you can’t take advice from others, but remember that you shouldn’t sacrifice how you want your wedding to be because of someone else’s opinion. This applies to everything, including your wedding dress, food, venue, and guest lists. Remember that your wedding is your day! Don’t be afraid to plan it how you want – it’s your money on the line.
Listen to Each Other
You’ve just decided to commit yourself to another person for the rest of your life, which means you should always have their back. Just as in life, this applies to your wedding. Wedding planning can be a very stressful event, and for a number of reasons. Family can be one of the main causes of stress when planning a wedding, especially when they are trying to make all the decisions. Sometimes these decisions don’t always match up with how you envision your wedding. That’s why it’s important to know what you two as a couple want, and to stand up to your family, or anyone else trying to tell you how to plan you wedding otherwise, to keep the engaged couple happy. A wedding isn’t a success unless the bride and groom are happy too.
Now that you’ve read up on these four essential tips all newly-engaged couples need to hear, you’re ready to begin the first phase of planning your wedding! Remember in the coming months to have a good time, and take a breather whenever needed.