Your relationship with your significant other is supposed to be your safe space. A cocoon of sorts. Your partner should be a main source of support, a person you can (and want to) share everything with. Your partner in life and love. Of course, no relationship is perfect, we all have our disagreements. But how do you tell what is normal and what is dysfunctional? If you find yourself asking, “is my relationship unhealthy?” read on.
Is My Relationship Unhealthy?
If you have to ask yourself this question, there is a good chance that you are unsure where you stand with your significant other. Below are five signs that you may be a part of a dysfunctional relationship.
1. There Is no Trust
In a healthy relationship, both parties maintain a mutual respect for one another. They do not feel the need to go through one another’s phones or stalk each other’s social media, they know that their partner is not lying about what they do while the two are apart. If you find yourself unable to relax while you are away from your partner because you are worried about what they may do, there is no trust. There are lots of ways to break trust in a relationship. Betrayals, such as lying and cheating ruin many relationships. If you find yourself in a situation where trust has been broken, you may want to consider couples therapy.
2. You Are Isolated
Abusers tend to isolate their victims, cutting them off from their support systems. Classic examples of this are when your partner insists that the two of you spend all of your time together. Another way unhealthy people isolate their mates is through nit-picking their relationships with their friends and family to make them feel insecure.
3. You Do Not Feel That the Relationship Has a Future
In a healthy relationship, you know that your partner is committed, faithful, and is not planning on leaving the relationship over a frivolous issue. One of the biggest signs of an unhealthy relationship is that it lacks any type of real security. If you have broken up and then gotten back together several times, or have threatened a break up numerous times, your relationship is most likely an unhealthy one.
Your partner may imply that they only want you for one thing; your looks, your hair, or your money. They may point out the negative aspects of your body, such as places where you are not toned. They will bring attention to things that they know make you feel insecure. In a healthy relationship, a partner highlights your strengths and builds you up, rather than tearing you down.
4. Negative Impact
In an unhealthy relationship, you find it much easier to identify ways that the relationship has impacted you negatively than ways that it has impacted you positively. You feel worse about yourself at this point in the relationship than you did before you became part of a couple. You can’t think of ways in which you and your partner make a good team.
5. There Is Domestic Violence
Domestic violence encompasses many behaviors. Physical abuse is not the only form of domestic violence. Threats and emotional and verbal abuse are all forms of domestic violence.
Get Help Today
If your partner has done any of the above it’s safe to answer the question is my relationship unhealthy with a “yes”. If you feel that you are unable to do this alone, there are many resources, such as counseling or group meetings.
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