There is no right or wrong way to express sympathy, but there are definitely some things you should avoid saying. Whether you’re writing a condolence card or speaking to the bereaved in person, here are some tips on what to say and what not to say when someone experiences a loss.
What to say when someone experiences a loss
Losing someone you loved is always a tough time. You may feel lost and alone, but it is important to remember that you are not alone in your grief. People who are close to you care about you and want to help you through this tough time. Here are a few things you can say to someone who has experienced a loss:
“I am sending you my condolences.” These simple words can go a long way in expressing your condolences.
“Let me know if there’s anything I can do to help.” Offering your help with practical tasks or just listening is a great way to show that you care.
“I’m thinking of you.” Sometimes we just need to know that someone is thinking of us. Knowing that others care can make a big difference during difficult times.
What not to say when someone experiences a loss
When someone we care about experiences a loss, it may be difficult to know what words to say. We may want to extend words of comfort, but sometimes our well-meaning words can come to an end causing more harm than good. If you discover yourself at a loss for words, here are a some term you should avoid saying:
· “I know the way you are feeling.” It’s natural to need to empathize with the one who is grieving, but it’s important to remember that everyone experiences grief in their own way. Avoid making assumptions about how the person is feeling, and instead offer your support and love.
· “It was just a _____.” Whether it is a pet, a possession, or maybe an individual, the loss of something important is often very painful. Avoid minimizing the person’s grief by Invalidating their feelings.
· “You are strong. You will get through this.” While it’s true that several people find strength in themselves during tough times, others might not be able to face the reality just yet. Respect the grieving process and allow the person to grieve in whatever way they have to.
The death of a love is typically a troublesome time. By avoiding these common phrases, you’ll ensure that you’re offering the support and compassion that the person needs.
If you are ever in a situation where someone has lost a loved one, it is important to know what to say and what not to say. You want to express sympathy without making the bereaved feel uncomfortable or like they need to comfort you. The best thing you can do is simply be there for them and let them know that you care. At Cosmopolitan Funeral Services, they understand how difficult these times can be, and they are here to help you through them. If you have recently lost someone close to you, please don’t hesitate to reach out. They would be honored to assist you in any way we can.