Love letters have become less popular in recent years. With the advancement of technology, some people see no need to write a letter when you can say everything you need to in person or on the phone!
For some, however, love letters might be important. Over 14 million couples in the US, for example, are long-distance, and can’t say everything they need to in person.
Even a text can sometimes seem impersonal.
If you’ve been considering writing a love letter for your partner, that’s awesome — it’s a great gesture that will go a long way. You might not be sure how to start, and we have some tips for that.
Consider Who It’s For
The first thing you should do when writing a love letter is to consider who it’s for. Is it birthday wishes for boyfriend? Is it a sweet spontaneous letter to your wife?
It might not even be for someone romantic at all, but for a family member. Platonic love letters are valid too.
An ‘I love you’ letter will be different depending on the intended audience. If it’s someone you know well, you can delve into personal details and inside jokes that the two of you have shared.
It might even be for a crush with whom you don’t have an established romantic relationship. If this is the case, consider if you’re ready to confess your feelings and if a letter is the best way to do it.
If you’re new to love letter ideas, the first thing you should do is look for inspiration.
By browsing online, you can find a number of love letters, both fictional and real, and see what works for you by looking at what they include.
You should never, however, copy a love letter in its entirety! They’re personal, and the recipient is sure to be annoyed if they found out you used someone else’s — as well as the fact it’s not okay to steal someone else’s writing.
It’s fine to take inspiration though and is all about striking that balance. At the very least, looking through love letters will let you know what you like and don’t like about them, and you can customize yours accordingly.
Presentation is Everything
So you’ve looked at inspiration, got an idea of where you want to go with it, and now you need to know how to present it. It’s one of the most important parts of knowing how to write a love letter.
Setting it on some nice paper and using cute stationery will make it feel great. You can even do some personal doodles in the margins.
Even though it’s perfectly fine to type out your love letter if you aren’t a fan of your own handwriting, writing it out is always more personal, so do this if you can. Even if you type it, print it and mail it or hand it over — don’t email it, as that definitely takes some of the personal touch away!
Think About What to Include
Now you need to think about what exactly to include in the contents. That’s not always an easy task.
You should be as personal as possible, although if it’s for a crush, avoid mentioning too many details you’ve spotted about them on Facebook. Your letter might have the opposite effect than you intend!
Why Are You Writing the Letter?
Think about why you’re writing the letter, and include that reason.
Is it a special occasion? Have you been thinking about them a lot lately? Are they going through a hard time?
Why Do You Love Them?
People love to be paid compliments so when it comes to writing a love letter, make sure you let them know why you love them!
You can give them a boost by telling them they’re kind, funny, intelligent, or whatever it is that makes this person so great to you. They’ll be sure to appreciate the compliments and the letter itself will be very well-received.
How to End a Love Letter
So, how do you end a love letter?
Sometimes simple is best. If you’ve said everything you want to in the letter, tell them you love them once more and sign it off.
If they’re going through a hard time and that’s why you chose to write the letter, remind them they can talk to you, but don’t push them. If it’s a special occasion, wish them a happy birthday, anniversary, or whatever the occasion is!
Consider the Best Place and Time
Lastly, consider the best place and time to give them the letter.
If you’re mailing it, you don’t have much of a choice. If you’re handing it over in person, find a quiet and private time. Don’t pressure them to open and read it in front of a group of people!
These moments are much better served being left for the two of you. You can always give them permission to share the letter later, if they want to and you’re comfortable with that.
Now, You Can Write the Perfect Love Letter
Now you know how to write the perfect love letter! Be sincere and genuine, consider the presentation and, most importantly, include personal details and enthusiasm that will make the recipient super happy.
It’s a lovely thing to do for someone — one of the most personal things you can do — and it’s sure to go down well.
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